Every day, I communicate with thousands of people whether it
is via Twitter or a public speaking engagement. Over the past few months, I’ve
been noticing that people are truly interested in becoming better people.
Almost everyone seems to be on their own secret journey to making themselves
whole. This makes me feel so inspired, because although we should all love and
appreciate ourselves at every life stage, there’s always room for growth.
If we each continue to get in the habit of asking the
universe every day to help us work towards being a better person, our wildest
dreams will just seem that more attainable. And after all, don’t we all want to
leave this world better than the way we came in?
With this thought at the top of my mind, I’ve decided start
a series dedicated to different practices that help me be a better me. I’ve
titled it, fittingly, “A Better You.”
Today’s topic is observing. It takes practice, but once you get it down
the world looks like a much better place.
Observe
When we come across a new scenario or a different person, we
tend to automatically judge. Being judgmental is one of the worst human
behaviors, yet one of the hardest habits to kick. When you find yourself in a
situation where you would typically judge, tell yourself you are going to
observe instead. When I say observe, what I mean is to look at the situation from
above. Not from your physical body, but as if you were a bird flying over your
situation.
Instead of making assumptions (our own opinions that are not
necessarily true) about a person or scenario, be methodological about it. Ask
yourself questions, so you can better understand why a person is acting the way
they are or why a situation is unraveling the way it is.
It’s amazing the things you learn when you shut your mouth
and your ego’s mind chatter and simply watch things happen. Think about what an
argument would be like if you just let the other person rant, while you just
listened? It would a lot less heated, that’s for sure! If we would just sit
back and observe, we can gather the facts, understand, and then come back with
an informative and compassionate answer.
Plus, when you observe you conserve your energy. More energy
for me and my life purpose? Now, that’s priceless.
xoxo,
Loren
