I was posting something recently on a blog site I write for and saw an ad for “Top 10 Life Settlement Predictions of 2011.” Not only was I intrigued, I thought it was interesting that someone actually predicts what people will “settle on” in life. Off the top of my head, I already can think of five things that some women settle on:
· A Job
· A Man
· Being Overweight
· Destructive Behavior – Smoking, Drinking, Drugs
· Friends
In each topic above, I can name one friend who admits to “settling.” One of the brightest women I know works for a billion dollar soft drink company. She’s been there for more than 15 years and she hates it. The job is tedious, excruciatingly slow and overwhelmingly filled with acres of paperwork. But, she won’t quit. She’s worked her way up, makes a good salary and thinks her life has so many other great things in it that she’ll settle for an unhappy workplace, (work consumes at least one-third of a person’s day for more than four LONG decades).
Last year, New York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb published, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. The reviews for the book skew in her favor with most suggesting they must be more open minded in their search for a mate and less picky. My response to that is, “You must be out of your mind!” Committing yourself to one person (hopefully) for the rest of your life takes courage, hard work and a great sense of humor. Imagine simply settling for “Mr. Good Enough.” You’re offering this other person something pretty amazing – YOU! – make sure you give freely, without hesitation. It makes the journey much more enjoyable.
Being overweight, smoking, drinking, spending time with the wrong friends, this is a symptom of a greater issue. My Irish mother repeatedly told me two things, “You can love a rich man just as much as a poor man,” and “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you what you are.” Making big changes is never easy, but I know a strategy that can change your life – Manifestation.
The term may be more 21st Century, but the concept is far from a new one. Philosophers and writers have been touting its powers for centuries. I learned about it when I was in college through a book by Pastor Norman Vincent Peale entitled, The Power of Positive Thinking. The contemporary book, The Secret, was an Oprah Winfrey favorite, but I was reminded of it while interviewing Loren Ridinger a few months back, then again recently when I worked on a story about one of Oprah’s “Ultimate Viewers.” The “Ultimate Viewer” dreamed of one day meeting her idol, so three years ago, she created a poster with photos of her and Oprah sitting on a couch together. She said kept the poster in her bathroom and looked at it daily. Eventually, that image manifested and she went to Australia in December.
Loren and her husband have built a strong business through hard work and good quality products, but even with the best possible scenarios, business is tough and keeping your mind focused on your goals and aspirations is extremely important. Loren told me about her Dream Board on which she puts images of her goals until they are manifested. I have begun to do the same. I include a list of three things I want to accomplish and have my Dream Board next to my computer so I look at it often. Some people put photos of themselves smiling so they can manifest a positive disposition or pictures of a place they are dreaming of visiting. It’s one of the most powerful ways to attract your dreams. I am a firm believer that one’s mind attracts negative and positive energy. If you want to change your life, change your thoughts and the best way to stay focused is through a Dream Board. Give it a try to three months and I’m certain things will happen for you.
By the way, “Top 10 Life Settlement Predictions of 2011” had nothing to do with people “settling.” It seems “life settlement” is a growing industry where people can make some extra cash selling their life insurance policies to settlement companies who earn their return when a person dies. I guess in a way, that is the ultimate in “settling.”
by Kathy Scott want to learn more about Kathy visit her @1000girlfriends
