Guest Blogger: Rachael Lowe | www.livingambitiously.com
When I started my personal journey I was afraid the people closest to me would think I was nuts. And don’t get me wrong, three years ago if you asked me what I thought about someone who was on the path that I am, I would have called myself a hippie, unrealistic, and probably a little weird. Now I have all these beliefs that the people closest to me still don’t totally understand when I try to explain it, but, they know I’m happier and a lot different than I was even just a year ago, and that’s all that matters to me. Here are some tips on how to get over the fear of having “weird” goals or dreams.
How To Stop Thinking Your Dreams Aren’t Worth It
- Find a mentor who does what you want to do. It’s totally cool to shoot ideas around with people, but know who you’re talking to. This is not a situation where you need to hear that you’re “doing great and everything will work out fine”. Screw that, you want some concrete action steps. Honest, helpful feedback is critical, and typically that will not come from your best friend, your boyfriend, or a family member. They are there to love and support you, but they might just be too close to help. Seek out someone or a group of people who are into what you are. They’re out there, and Facebook groups are a great place to start. Sometimes just finding them is enough motivation to move forward
- Just Do It, and then they’ll get it. I spent a lot of time talking to people about what I wanted to do because I wanted some validation that it was a good idea. The problem with that is the talking went on and on, and I still hadn’t done a thing. Now that my site is up, people come to me with feedback, thanks, and questions. Ironic right? No – because the kind of things I share are the exact things everyone else is afraid to talk about. So when they see it in action, my goals explain themselves. And if you mess something up by “doing it”, then at least you know what to fix.
- Sit on it. Gabrielle Bernstien shares a great “prayer” in her book Spirit Junkie that can begin a meditation session. Just before you sit in your meditation, she suggests asking the following of your intuition: “Where would you have me go, what would you have me do, what would you have me say, and to whom?” Releasing those questions, sit quietly and wait for an answer. It always comes. I’ve found this useful when I don’t know what to write for a blog post, when I don’t know what my next step is, or when I just feel stuck. Any meditation practice would work here, though. Ask and you will receive.
