Do you ever feel like you and your partner bicker more than you laugh? Every couple goes through phases and growing pains and, believe it or not, fighting is part of that process. You’re two different people with two personalities and two sets of goals – but you’re trying to live life together and make it all work. A little fighting is natural, it’s how you handle these arguments that could make or break your relationship. Keep reading for some tips on keeping the conflict in a healthy place that results in resolutions and growth.
Relationship Conflict: Keeping Your Fights in A Healthy Place
· Be specific. If you have an issue with your partner, that’s one thing. But generalizing isn’t going to help. Cite the specific incident that hurt your feelings.
· Skip the name calling. This type of arguing isn’t about being mean, it’s about coming to a place of compromise.
· If the arguing gets out of hand, take a break. Underneath all of this, you love each other – that’s why it gets so heated sometimes. The issue isn’t going to go anywhere, so take a break and come back to it after you have both cooled down.
· Remember that you are two people building a life together – it’s all about compromise. One person can’t always have it his or her way – give and take to find a happy place.
· Be clear with yourself about what’s actually making you upset. Is it because your spouse forgot to make the bed or is it a more deeply rooted issue.
· Give your partner your full attention during an argument. This ensures you understand exactly what he or she needs and you’re giving your relationship the respect it deserves.
How do you make sure that your relationship arguments remain in a healthy place?
