Let’s be real. Life is hard enough without having to add unhealthy people to the mix. There’s no sense in choosing (that’s right, it’s a choice!) to spend time with people who will hold you back – even if they claim to be a friend or family member. There is always a choice. And if you want to move forward and lead a happy and healthy existence, sometimes standing up for yourself and creating barriers from harmful relationships is the only way to go. Here are four people you definitely don’t need in your life.
4 People You Don’t Need in Your Life
The toxic friend – If this “friend” is never happy for you when you succeed, can’t be counted on when times get rough, and only wants to talk about herself, I have news for you – she’s not a friend. With friends like these, you’ll never need enemies. Cut her out of your life and focus on the friendships that have been true to you.
The unreliable boyfriend – He says he’ll call, but he never does. He says he’ll show up at a certain time, but he’s hours late or just stands you up. And when you need him to do something for you or take you somewhere, he’s nowhere to be found. Why are you wasting your time on this guy? There will always be opportunity for a better relationship. But it won’t come along if you’re clouding your vision focusing on the wrong person. Let him go and watch as good things come your way when you make room for them.
The abusive boss – I know this one’s tough – your boss provides you with a job, which means it directly affects your livelihood. But if this boss is constantly berating you, yelling at you, and making your work life miserable, maybe it’s time to take matters up with their superior. If there’s no resolution or transfer available, it may be time to look for another job. You spend more hours at work than you do at home – they might as well be pleasant!
The crazy relative – Sure, you can’t pick your family. But you can still choose whom you spend your time with. And if there’s someone in your family who absolutely drives you crazy, it’s ok to keep your time together to a minimum. If it’s a seriously toxic relationship, it might be necessary to draw a decisive line – and that’s ok. Your mental health and well-being are worth it. And there’s no sense in driving yourself crazy out of some sense of duty.
At the end of the day, life is all about choice – even when it comes to the people we think we’re stuck with forever.
