It seems that with the anonymity of the internet, sometimes people feel entitled and compelled to tell you exactly what they’re thinking, even if it’s offensive, mean, or hurtful (and sometimes all three!). Having been active online for many years, I’ve come across my fair share of naysayers – and so have my friends. And whether it’s online or in person, the fact remains that there are many insecure individuals out there who will often try to make themselves feel better by pouring their negativity onto someone else. When that happens, it’s important to remember that it has nothing to do with you – this is truly their issue to deal with. But rather than let it affect you, I’m sharing some tips on how to navigate the situation with poise and confidence. Read on for some insight on how to deal with all spectrums of negative people. Hint: the secret weapon is to rise above it. xoxo
When negativity comes into your life through family, coworkers or friends, it really can bring you down. Dealing with someone’s repeated negative reaction or outlook can easily rain on your parade, making you have to fight for your positive outlook. Have you ever had to deal with someone negative? Having the tools to deal with negative people won’t help you change their minds, but it will help you manage those situations and relationships. Here’s a look at tuning out the noise: how to deal with negative people. First, understand that if someone is a truly negative influence in your life, there’s absolutely no point in keeping them there. If this is someone you can do away with, such as when it comes to strangers online, or distant coworkers you don’t need to need to deal with on a daily basis, then the best tactic is to brush them off and keep your distance. However, sometimes, there are people in our lives that we can’t get rid of and have to find a way to balance. For those cases, read on.
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Change the subject to something fun and light. Negative people often want to harp on sad or frustrating topics, but you have the power to tune it out, change the subject and redirect the conversation to something positive. Find your voice in the friendship to make sure you’re focused on something you want to talk about – sometimes it’s tough, but you can do it.
Try to engage the negative person in group activities rather than one-on-ones. Spending time with a negative person can be totally exhausting, especially in a one-on-one situation. In a group setting he or she is often forced to stop harping on the negative and join the conversation of the group – it’s a great way to divert negative energy and offer a distraction.
Don’t engage in negative behaviors or acts. When a friend or family member is consistently speaking negatively about their personal situations, work, relationships or even themselves, it’s important not to engage. You can certainly be a good friend, a listening ear and let them know you’re there to offer support, but at some point you have to draw the line when it comes to negative behavior. Turn it around, change the subject and talk about all the positives happening. Let the person know that it’s time to stop thinking about the negative and focus on something good.
Try to limit your time together, if possible. It’s easy to get trapped by the negativity that someone else is projecting if you spend too much time together. Even if it’s one your most loved relatives or friends, sometimes you have to put a limit on your togetherness. Rather than getting fed up and frustrated, limit your time together each week – give yourself a boundary.
Know that your companionship, friendship and love is making a positive impact – even if you don’t feel like it is. Negative people won’t always make you feel like you’re listening ear and friendship is helping their situation, but you need to know – deep in your heart – it is.
Have you had to deal with haters? Or is it a closer person in your life who’s driving you crazy? How do you tune out negative noise from friends, loved ones and coworkers? I’d love to have your insight.
