Anyone out there at the beginning stages of a new relationship? Let’s say you recently met, sparks started to fly and all of a sudden you find yourself hanging out non-stop….that’s the start of something and often, the best part! When things are new and just getting going, it’s like a whirlwind of being on cloud 9 (as it should be!), but it’s also the time in a relationship when you want to be sure you’re paying attention to all the little details. This is when you’ll know if you’re ready to jump in with both feet or if you’re still a little bit unsure – and, there’s nothing wrong with that. Not sure exactly what you’re looking for? Here are five questions to ask yourself before jumping in for the long haul.
- Is the relationship balanced in terms of how often you spend just talking and hanging out vs. how much time you spend in the bedroom? If there’s no balance it can easily go off course – like the whole relationship is based on your sexual interactions or you’re constantly worrying and wondering if it will get to that level. Balance (right from the start) is key.
- Is all your time spent alone (and at home) or do you mix it up with your friends and his or her friends? If the whole relationship is spent behind closed doors, something is off and it’s time to figure out what’s going on there, especially if you get the feeling you’ll never be introduced to family and friends. Being clear that you want a balanced relationship that incorporates spending time with friends and family from both sides is essential for standing the test of time.
- Does he (or she) talk about an “ex” non-stop? This is definitely one to watch out for – a tell-tale sign that they’re not over a previous relationship and that some serious feelings are still lingering. Getting into a new relationship is a big deal – and both parties have to be ready and committed.
- Do you feel comfortable and 100% like yourself when you’re together or do you feel like you have to act a certain way? Being totally yourself in a relationship is really the only way to make it work – this is the person who will see you at your best and your worst, after all – and they need to know the real you. If you’re feeling like you have to act or behave a certain way that you’re not totally comfortable with, it’s time to reevaluate.
- Do you feel complete and total bliss when you’re together? If you answered yes….than you’re definitely off on the right start. The beginning stages of a relationship should feel like Cloud 9 and nothing less! No stress, no worries, no anger….just total harmony. Falling in love is the best feeling in the world – and happiness is the most basic, yet most important factor. If that part is missing right from the start, it’s time to take a step back.
How about you? When you get into a new relationship what signs are you looking for?
