So, you’re a grown woman. College is over; you pay your own rent, and even your cellphone bill. You’re getting this whole “adulating” thing down. That is, except for the fact that you parents still treat you like your twelve. You want them to see you as the woman you’ve become, rather than some kid who still needs babying. You’re no one’s little girl, so it’s time to put up some boundaries. Boundaries are super healthy for all the relationships in your life, but especially for the one you have with you parents. Read on to learn more and be sure to leave a message in the comments section. Have you put up boundaries?
Have A Conversation- Make it clear to your parents that you aren’t their child anymore, but also be sure to keep things positive. You’re going to have to tell them in an honest manner, but keep things light. If your parents understand, that’s great. If they get unhappy or frustrated by the conversation, try not to take it too personally. Sometimes, it’s just a reaction you have to deal with.
Make Things Clear- If you’re setting up boundaries with your parents, it’s important that you keep things clear. Your parents want what’s best for you and if that means you have to tell them that discussing your weight or your partner is off limits, then that’s what you have to do. Give details and stay firm.
Give Something in Return- If you’re going to your partner’s house for Thanksgiving rather than your parents place, then offer something in return. Tell them that you’ll definitely make it to Christmas. Try not to give too much away from guilt. This often happens in these types of chats so be sure to remember your feelings.
