If you’re not in a relationship, but you want to be – trust me on this – you’re not alone. So many people out there find themselves single, but don’t know why and figuring that out is essential for understanding where you’re at in life. Many people just haven’t met the right person, while others need some time of self-reflection to pave the way for love in the future. If you think it’s time to get honest with yourself, let’s take a look at five reasons why you’re still single.
5 Reasons Why You’re Still Single
You’re focused on your career. This is a good thing! And, good for you for staying the course with your future. But, here’s the thing: once you’ve achieved everything you’re after career-wise, you’re going to want to share that success with someone. When you feel like you’ve accomplished what you want job-wise, it’s time to dial it back a bit and focus on your heart.
You’re forgetting to keep an open mind. When it comes to matters of the heart, an open mind is essential – you never know who you’re going to meet or who you will fall for. Rather than limiting yourself when it comes to looks, education, age difference, etc., just keep your heart and mind open to anything.
You’re focused on protecting yourself and therefore not putting yourself out there. To meet someone you have to get out of your way – it’s a must. And, that means getting out of the house, trying dating apps, being open to blind dates and even just talking to that guy or gal at work who you have a crush on.
You’re afraid to speak up and let that special person know you love them. Sometimes when you like someone, and you’re unsure if they like you back – you’re scared. Afraid to get your feelings hurt, afraid the feelings won’t be reciprocated and just generally nervous about the whole thing. But when it comes down to it, what do you have to lose? Nothing. Putting yourself out there takes guts, and you never know will happen – you just may have met the love of your life.
You’re just not ready. And, that is OK. If you find yourself struggling to understand exactly what you want out of a relationship, there’s a good chance you’re just not ready to be in one. If this is your time to focus on yourself than let yourself have that time. Go ahead and do you. Enjoy your time alone, revel in it actually and save couples life for a time down the road.
So how about it? Are you feeling like you’re starting to get a better understanding of where you’re at on the relationship spectrum and why?
