You meet an incredible guy, energy seems to be radiating, then all of a sudden, he sends one-word responses before completely dropping off the face of the earth. You’re left wondering why this happened again, and questioning how to communicate your disappointment in his behavior to him without sounding like a needy psycho. Sound familiar?
How to Text a Guy Without Sounding like a Psycho
As much as men claim to hate it, the thrill of the chase is an inspiration to men. It brings out those primal feelings of manliness while giving them time alone with their feelings to process whether they want you in their life. If they truly like you and want to be with you, they will take the necessary steps to win your heart.
If you want a guy to see you like the queen that you are that would be an asset to his empire, you cannot be too available.
Step back and refrain from chasing him, ladies – this habit sends men running for the hills. Continually texting him and immediately replying to his messages makes you appear too available, and therefore, less attractive to him because he will become bored quickly if you don’t present a challenge. Following up messages with yet more asking why he hasn’t yet replied will be the final nail in that coffin, trust me! Acting ‘needy’ is not a desirable trait in the animal kingdom – fair or not, it’s considered annoying.
It’s time to flip the script on men; let HIM be anxiously waiting around to hear from you.
Give him the gift of missing you.
In the early dating days, resist the urge to respond to his messages immediately. Let him wait 20 or 45 minutes, or even a few hours sometimes.
Control your mind.
Never EVER send more than a message or two (at the very most) in a row without waiting for a response. Don’t let your overthinking mind run away with you – there could be a million reasons why he can’t respond right now. Turning on his phone to 10 messages along the lines of ‘Why aren’t you replying to me?” or ”Are you mad at me?” and so on are instant passion killers. He will assume you are a psycho; wouldn’t you think the same if the shoe was on the other foot? Resist every compulsion to hit him with those text paragraphs – nothing good will come of it!
Over-thinking is the worst!
Try not to obsessive analyze every text. One-word responses don’t mean he’s mad at you – he’s likely just busy at that time. AT NO POINT should you ask why he ‘sounds off’ or bombard him with more messages. Give him space to contact you when he’s less busy.
End conversations first.
Whether texting or talking on the phone, make a conscious effort to end the conversation even when it’s going magically well. This ensures every communication he has with you is a positive experience, and he’ll be hungry for more.
Focus on the behaviors you like.
When he finally calls you back after you waited so patiently checking your phone line every 30 seconds to be sure it hadn’t spontaneously combusted, tell him it’s great to hear his voice. Focusing on the negatives, like asking why he never calls you, pushes him away and makes you sound needy. You may want him, but you don’t need him – and that’s an important distinction to make. Praising him for what he does right will appeal to his ego, and he’ll make an effort to focus on the doing more of the things that make you happy.
Focus on doing you.
You were doing just fine before meeting him, and you’ll do fine without him. No matter how wonderful he may seem, you don’t need him. Don’t let his entrance into your life throw your routine out of the window. If he wants to be in your life, he’ll find a way to make it happen.
