Today’s post brings me so much joy because it comes from a writer who was a member of the editorial team for Loren’s World back when we were first starting this blog. Nikki Novo was always inspiring to work with and today, she is a self-actualized woman with a mission to change the world one person at a time. A Miami-based self-help author and speaker, Nikki believes that if each person feels free and motivated enough to go after their passion, it will inspire others to do the same (sound familiar?)–literally changing the world by creating a happier, more fulfilled culture of people who can finally do what they were put on this Earth to do. How inspiring is that??
Today, Nikki is guest posting on Loren’s World to shed some light on some of the things that hold us back from actually achieving our dreams. Sometimes, changing our thought patterns is the only thing that stands in the way between our current existence and the success that lies just on the other side of the door we are sometimes a bit too timid to open. If you’re tired of waiting around and expecting things to magically change, know that you will be waiting for a very long time. Instead, take that step towards a different way of thinking and you’ll be amazed at how much can change with a single thought. If you’re ready to make a change, read ahead for Nikki Novo’s expert insight on success and abundance.
3 Beliefs That Are Secretly Holding You Back
We’ve all found ourselves in that moment where we look at our lives and realize things aren’t working out as planned. Life was supposed be more enjoyable, exciting, and abundant, but it’s not. And although we’ve tried to change our habits — by being more organized, disciplined, happy — we seem to always fall back on our old habits. And as a result, nothing really changes at all.
It’s almost as if something else is sitting behind the driver’s wheel causing our lives to unfold. Well, guess what. There is something else running the show: your beliefs.
The beliefs that find their way into our subconscious mind are what drive our reality. And if you don’t know what lingers in the shadows, you’ll quickly become frustrated. The good news is, we have all been given the power to change our minds, our beliefs, and our lives. Here are three beliefs that might be holding you back, but on the flipside can also be changed for the good.
- The Belief that You’re Not Enough
So often we believe that something outside of us will make us happy: a partner, a new job, a fat bank account, and so on. But even when we obtain our goal, the initial allure eventually wears off, and we’re stuck feeling thirsty for the next thing. If you find yourself unable to celebrate your victories — even the small ones — or never completely satisfied, the belief that you are not enough may be driving your actions and thoughts.
May this be a reminder that no matter where you’ve been and what challenges you have faced, you are complete. As babies, no one ever looked at us and thought, “I’ll think that baby is great the day she has $1 million in her bank account. Until then, I’ll just judge her.” No, we love babies! We think they’re all perfect, because they are. Our personal value has not change from baby to who we are now. We’ve made choices throughout our lives that could be interpreted as good or bad, but they don’t determine our value. Acknowledge your value, and the world will do the same.
- The Belief that You Can’t
Even the most ambitious people can hold this sneaky thought pattern. How so? Well, the beliefs that find themselves into our subconscious aren’t always are own. If we had a parent growing up who continuously said, “I can’t” it is very likely we picked up the same belief. And the scary part is we might use the phrase throughout the day — either internally or externally — and have no idea.
If your mind believes you can’t, then you won’t. We’ll feel defeated before we even try, because our mind is telling us that the action is impossible. But don’t fret! If you find yourself hitting a wall regularly, make an effort to listen to your thoughts and what you say out loud. Are your words contradicting your desires? If so, begin to tell yourself a different story.
- The Belief that Life will Always Look the Same Way
One belief that can sabotage even the most talented dreamers, is the rigid thought of expecting life to look exactly like it did yesterday. Of course, most of us who see an exciting life, can’t even imagine holding this belief in our subconscious, but it happens.
It’s not our ability to see a bright future far away in the distance that creates change. It’s our ability to believe a change is possible in our small, everyday habits that truly make magic happen. It’s easy to imagine being a millionaire “one day,” but if we believe tomorrow, we’ll still be working the same job or eating the same unhealthy breakfast that future dream will never happen.
Without realizing it, we wake up each morning limiting ourselves to a reality we’ve all seen before. Our kids are going to complain again. Our client is going to ask for a discount. We won’t be able to refuse that chocolate chip cookie, once again. Even if we dream big, we expect the small things to be the same. And it’s the small things that make the big change. So tomorrow morning, leave the door open for new beginnings. Invite them. What you’ll find are new adventures you never could have imagined.
To follow Nikki Novo and keep up-to-date with her latest advice, follow her on Instagram (@nikkinovo), Facebook (/NikkiNovo), Twitter (@nikkinovo), or YouTube (Nikki Novo). You can also visit her website, NikkiNovo.com to keep up with the latest podcasts, classes, and blog posts. To purchase her latest book, “Will I Be Alone Forever? And Other Questions You Wish You Could Ask a Psychic” as well as other tools and workshops, visit her shop on NikkiNovo.com. I hope you enjoyed this post as much as I did! Please let me know what you think in the comments! xo
