The break down of any relationship can be a confusing journey. When you’re not momentarily angry at him for everything he did wrong, you’re annoyed at yourself for the mistakes you made, or just for missing him. The older and wiser we grow, the more we have to realize that life sometimes gets in the way and we’re all capable of making mistakes we wish we could take back. Sometimes the universe brings us a potential soul mate, but it’s just not the right time for you to be in each others’ lives because you both have lessons to learn and growth you may need to experience on your own. If you’re currently on the roller coaster thought wave undecided on whether you should let someone back in your life, read on for signs you should give him a second chance.
7 Signs You Should Give Him a Second Chance
I don’t believe we should ever let toxic people back into our lives who hurt us endless times with their poisonous behavior, but as humans, sometimes we only absorb how much we love someone when we’re faced with the possibility of losing them forever. Sometimes we meet people at the wrong time in life, but that doesn’t mean there can’t be a right time in the future.
You’re still overanalyzing everything months later
You feel like you’re stuck in a time loop, reliving the exact moment it all started falling apart and reenacting every argument in your head to see what you could have done differently. If you haven’t spoken since this is a sign you have unfinished business. Reaching out to him suggesting a meet will give you the opportunity to calmly communicate with him will, which at the very least will give you closure if it becomes apparent you can’t be together and allow you both to move on.
You and your friends can’t stop thinking and talking about him
If you and your BFF’s are still thinking and talking about him months later, this is a sign you shared a bond that isn’t fading away. While your friends will feel protective about seeing you get hurt again, knowing they expect and hope you get back together is a clear sign that other people felt the energy between you both. If everywhere you look, something reminds you of him, which shifts between making you feel happy and making you want to scream out in frustration, you haven’t let go.
There are signs all around you
You hear your song in the mall, accidentally find yourself in his favorite restaurant or driving behind that rare car he’s wanted for ages. Every day, something is resonating with you as a sign from the Gods that you’re destined to be together.
You can’t bring yourself to delete the memories you shared
When our hearts let go of someone and move on, it’s normal to take down or delete photos we shared with them. If you still haven’t been able to do this weeks or months later, your heart isn’t ready to let him go. If you check his social media most days, alternating between wanting to see him happy and holding your breath at the thought of discovering he may have moved on, you’re still in love with him.
You compare every date to him
Even if Mr. Perfect (on paper) walked into your life right now, you’d barely notice. You may have experienced some fun dates with wonderful men since, but none of them compare to him.
You find any reason to contact or see him
Whenever something good or bad happens, he’s still the first person you want to call, and your heart dips a little when it remembers you’re not together anymore. If you keep trying to find any little excuse to text or bump into him ‘accidentally,’ you are not ready to say goodbye.
You still talk about him in the present
Talking as if you’re still together is a sure sign this door is not closing anytime soon. If your heart still swoons over him in person or simply from his photo, he still has your heart, and no one else stands a chance.
