Sometimes, when we find ourselves in a rut of negativity, we have to look inward and ask ourselves what we’ve been telling ourselves rather than what the world has been telling us. Believe it or not, we each have the power to create our own truth – and that means setting the tone for the scope of what life looks like. Sometimes changing the reality is easier than you think – and a mere adjustment to the conversation can turn negative talk and phrases into positive conversation. Whether life has had you down and out or you’re simply ready to bring an air of positivity to your world, here’s a look at how to easily spin things around.
Changing the Conversation: Turning Negative Phrases Around
Remember that it doesn’t have to be black and white. All or nothing thinking and phrases have a way of sneaking into the conversation and quickly make things look pretty bleak. Rather than looking at a situation as though it “always” happens to you or it’s completely “impossible” to fix, focus on how you can switch things up. Open your mind and heart to realize that tough things do and will happen, even to the best people, but it’s a blip on the screen of a wonderful life. Instead of seeing a challenge as impossible, think – how can I creatively overcome this? What do I need to do to achieve the outcome I want?
Get out of your own head. Sometimes it’s easy to obsess and harp on the things that get us down and as a result, we end up with spinning thoughts. Essentially negativity breeds negativity – sometimes you have to be the one to put the brakes on your own mind. Rather than reminding yourself of all the things you should have done or you should do, praise yourself for the accomplishments you have achieved – even the small ones! Perhaps you didn’t finish everything on your to-do list today, but you did accomplish 50% of it – pat yourself on the back and pour a glass of wine – you deserve it!
Do your best to avoid over generalizing situations that are getting you down. Just because you have an argument with your partner doesn’t necessarily mean your whole relationship is going down the tubes. Look at is as a challenge to you both to learn a bit about compromise and how to tackle it with grace and love. Rather than saying, “Why me?” think about the parts of your relationship that make you happy and fulfilled and say, “Wow, I am lucky to have this person in my life and I am willing to compromise for love.”
There’s a pretty wonderful theme here for life in general – essentially the old adage is true: When life hands you lemons, make lemonade – it’s incredible how good it will make you feel. How do you turn negativity around to find the good stuff?
