There’s no question that breakups can be painful and it’s difficult to trust and love again. Whether you broke up with him or he broke up with you, moving on is hard to do. Breaking up is never fun and never easy depending on the situation. The end of your relationship means the beginning of a period of healing and morning for both. Even if it’s a mutual decision you will still have to experience a period of adjustment and getting used to no longer being together.
Not only have you lost your lover, but you have lost your companion and sometimes that can become more difficult to heal than anything else. Still sometimes we become hard headed and lonely and make the mistake of not allowing the heart to heal and getting to know yourself again. So how do you deal with a broken heart? How do you overcome a heartbreak? Here is a list of things to do daily that will help heal a broken heart.
1. Connect with your family – Count your blessings in the love of your family, your close friends and the wonderful people that love you. Family is one of the most important bonds you will ever have, no matter the circumstances they will always be there. You will be surprised how wonderful the love of your family feels after or during break up. You will realize how much love you are taking for granted while you are crying for the one love that is no more yours.
2. Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship.
3. Channel all of that love and energy into something you are most passionate about. Marc Zuckerberg created Facebook after an ex-girlfriend embarrassed him in front of her friends.
4. Learn the lesson. Your should always take some time and evaluate the 5W’s: who, what, where, why, and also how. What did you do to contribute to your relationship failing? Where was your head, in the clouds, in denial, numb? When did you finally realize it was over? Did you drag the relationship for too long?
5. Learn to love yourself and know you can do better. It’s never easy of letting go of someone, but depending on the circumstances whether you let him go or vise versa no there is something better for you. Things happen for a reason and when something is meant to be it’s meant to be. Keep an open mind knowing that you will find someone more deserving and understanding of you and your love.
6. Get everything out of your chest don’t hold it inside. Your friends and family might get sick of hearing it, but letting go of all of your feelings is helpful.
7. Become your own best friend love yourself the most on top of everything. Most people who have trouble healing even if they know they can do better have low self esteem and are afraid to be alone. Spend time with yourself, learn things you love, devote your time to helping others. Know that you are the most beautiful person on the planet and you have so much to offer and any person who doesn’t think so it’s not deserving of you. Remember beauty comes from with in.
8. Take a vacation. Being away always helps. As they said time heals the heart. Even if it’s for one week or two distracting yourself and getting away from all the things that remind you of that person is very helpful. Go on an adventure with friends and family. Nothing is more distracting than a vacation with friends.
9. Reinvent yourself. Did you always want to do certain things, but you didn’t because your partner was opposed to it. Go ahead die your hair brown or black, it will wash off. Study something new, try yoga, take on new adventures whether big or small trying new things will help distract the heart.
10. Think about all the mean things your ex may have done to your relationship. Thing about all the pain he caused you and others that love you. Remind yourself that if somebody who truly cares about would not have done such things to you. Remind yourself of this everyday. Write a list, read them out loud and know that there’s someone else who truly care for you.
