Finding the love of your life is pretty incredible, wouldn’t you agree? But turning that instant heat into a long-lasting love is what makes life worth living. Having love that can both stand the test of time and ebb and flow with you as things change is one in a million – and when you find it, it’s worth holding on to. From sharing similar passions, to having life-long goals that align on many levels certainly helps, but what about helping it along throughout the ups and the downs? Whether you’re just starting out together or you’re navigating a decade plus relationship, here are a few ideas for building long-lasting love.
Relationship Talk: Creating Long-Lasting Love
Spend time exploring together. Having adventures as a couple is one of the best ways to make sure you’re both able to experience new things and tackle challenges that might test your patience with one another. Set aside time to travel and explore together, whether you road trip or jet set – get out there and see new things together.
Spend time with friends together and separately. Finding a balance of just how much time you spend together is absolutely essential to achieving long-lasting love. Laughing and enjoying life with other couples and friends is a great way to be together, but also have the influence and positive energy of others. But it’s also essential that you get the chance to spend time with your friends – girls’ night, guys night – whatever it might be, helps maintain that sense of independence and friendship that everyone needs.
Get on the same page when it comes to finances. Sometimes (even after years of being together) you just have to sit down and talk about it rather than having shared finances be the elephant in the room. From planning ahead for the future to talking about the present – get it all out on the table and come up with a plan – together. Once the plan is in place, stick to it and work together to overcome obstacles down the road.
Make sure that you are fulfilling your own passions and dreams. When you are content and happy with yourself and your own goals, you’ll bring that feeling of fulfillment home with you at the end of the day. From volunteering with the organizations you love to spend time with, to making sure you take time to head to yoga for a little time for yourself – whatever it is – keeping yourself content will help drive tranquility in your relationship.
Have each other’s back. No matter what, when it comes down to it you’re a team and operating as a team is important for both enjoying the good times and tackling challenges that come your way. Tough things are going to happen, but when you can work together to get through it – you’ll come out ahead as a much stronger and more loving couple.
What’s the status of your relationship? Could it use a few of these ideas to help strengthen and develop a love that will stand the test of time?
