Confidence is a feeling that you think you will do better after your efforts, a feeling that you can know more after your time, a feeling that
you come from the environment so you can change yourself to adapt to the environment. Confidence concerns clam, attitude, mind.
Using confidence as a tool in our daily lives and its critical in order to succeed in business or in anything for that matter.Having confidence will allow you to reach new boundaries, stop second guessing yourself, manage your fears and you will be able to do more of the things that really matter to you.Sure it’s not always so easy especially when you’re starting a new job opportunity, speaking in front of thousands of
people or even asking someone out on date.
My husband JR has always instilled the confidence that allows me to know that I am capable of achieving anything I put my mind
to.Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you.Perception is reality, the more self-confidence you have, the more likely you’ll success. By using some of the different ways below you you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.
- Good Posture: It’s always the ways the person carries herself is what tells the story. People with lethargic movements display
a lack of self-confidence. Practice good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident.
- Work Out:Along the same lines as personal appearances, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive and less energetic.
- Do something active:Most nervous people, those who lack confidence, don’t act.Often the fear of acting and doing something wrong is so great that it prevents them of doing anything.
- Conquer fear: take risks. Sometimes life requires a small “leap of faith.” You’ll feel good that you took some risks, even if they don’t always work out as well as you hope. At least you can say you tried!
- Stand up for yourself. Low self-esteem often leads to lack of assertiveness; and when we don’t voice what we want and need, we end up feeling worse about who we are. Build your assertiveness skills, and it will get easier in time.
- Set personal goals.
Decide where you’d like to go, and make a reasonable, yet challenging, plan to get there. Set deadlines and a system of rewards to keep you going. (A goal, by the way, doesn’t have to be a huge life decision, like “become a
doctor”. It can be anything you want to have in your life, like “Make one new friend” or “Learn to make jam.”)
- Learn from — but let go of — mistakes. Absolutely everyone, no matter how perfect they may seem, messes up from time to time. This is how we learn — like the process of learning to walk as children. If we don’t stumble, we don’t learn how to keep our balance. Keep this in mind as you venture out into the world. Be gentle with yourself.
- Do things on your own — don’t rely on others to make you feel good. One potential trap of a shaky self-esteem is dependency on others. The real truth is, if you feel a void inside, no one can fill it but you. While healthy relationships are important for happiness, more important is the relationship we have with ourselves.
- Find things you enjoy.
Whether
it’s sewing, drawing, swimming or karate, hobbies are a big self-esteem
booster. Even if we are not experts, doing something for the pleasure and
challenge builds our sense of who we are.
- Live in the moment.
The more time you spend
dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, the more of the present you
are wasting. Life is NOW, and you should get out there and embrace
- Use visualization techniques.
If you’re anxious or doubtful about your ability to do something (ask
your boss for a raise or compete in a marathon, for example), practice
visualizing that moment in detail. Imagine yourself pulling it off smoothly.
It’ll lower your fear and boost your confidence.
