We talk pretty often at Loren’s World about being your own woman, finding a balance between love and your personal goals and even how to handle the ups and downs of relationships. But what about when your relationships are clouding the person you know you can be? When things have gotten so rock-bottom that your only option really is to break up, move on and focus on your own personal growth…have you ever had that moment? Let’s think about it.
We all get lost in relationships sometimes. It just happens. But what happens when we get so lost that we lose our independence? When we forget about the powerful, talented women we all are…where does that go and how can it be regained? Sometimes, putting the focus back on yourself, back to the place where you invest in your own personal growth and development and you leave all else aside is essential. For many it’s a crossroad. Do I invest in myself or do I hang on to this relationship because I don’t want to be alone?
Here’s the answer: you invest in yourself. You stop being afraid to face the world on your own, you remember how strong and smart you are, and you take the time to go chase your personal goals. You have just one life to live, and making the most of it is not an option. So if you find yourself at this crossroad – choosing between yourself and a relationship – it’s time to choose you. And, here’s why:
- You can only be the best friend and romantic partner when you believe in yourself, and sometimes you have to step away from love to find that confidence again.
- Even when you feel like putting yourself first will hurt others feelings or make you seem selfish, remember this: it’s the best thing you can do…for anyone. Spending time to focus on yourself, your beliefs and what you want out of life will help make you the best partner you can be.
- Understanding how to forgive is the first step in mending relationships and building new ones. Stepping away from relationships to spend some time looking within your own heart is the first step to learning how to forgive.
- Even when you’re at your worst, you have to have faith in yourself to turn things around. And, finding strength often comes when you are forced to face your innermost fears, anger and unmet dreams.
- Understanding your own sense of spirituality is an essential building block to opening your heart to the right relationship.
Have you ever found yourself at this crossroads? Where your relationship is no longer fulfilling, but instead is bringing you down rather than building you up? Sometimes the moment comes where looking within and finding the strength to walk away is also the moment when you know you’re about to invest in yourself – and coming out on the other side will mean a better, stronger, more open you.
