You’re trying multiple dating apps, say yes to opportunities to meet new people, and attend every date with an open-minded positive mindset. Yet alas, after another ‘blah’ date you feel completely discouraged. You may not consciously be doing so, but you may have subconsciously given up on finding love.
4 Signs You’ve Subconsciously Given up on Love
1. You convince yourself before the appetizers arrive that it won’t work out.
To some degree, everyone has a vision of what their ‘perfect’ partner looks like. The funny thing is, almost no one you ask married the person they pictured. The reality is, they likely married the polar opposite to what they were looking for. You have to be open to love and put yourself out there – love doesn’t always strike like lightning – it can take time to grow.
2. Your bad date dramas dictate your dating life.
Rather than laughing off a bad date or few, you find yourself going into shutdown mode. You don’t get excited about dates anymore after one too many disappointments. You’ve started shutting down to the idea of love.
3. You avoid dates.
You’re still on the dating sites, but when a potential suitor invites you out, you find yourself making excuses. Spending time alone at home or throwing pity parties with like-minded friends won’t help. We have to be completely open to love.
4. You struggle to be around couples.
If spending time with your loved-up friends makes you painfully aware of your still single status, you may be crossing over into bitter land.
