Men have a tarnished reputation when it comes to commitment. What if his refusal to commit to you before he’s ready is a sign of emotional maturity, rather than an indication he wants to maintain his bachelor lifestyle? We’re all unique, so we think and react to situations in our own unique way. Past experiences and heartache can influence how both men and women behave in relationships.
6 Reasons Why He Won’t Commit to You
#1. He’s not scared of commitment.
Taking things slowly with you is a sign of wisdom rather than a commitment-phobe red flag. Taking time to get to know each other is important for both parties to ensure that if and when you both commit to each other, there’s no doubt you’re committing to the right person.
#2. Most men are seeking something real too.
Contrary to popular opinion, the majority of men are seeking real relationships too. Knowing their coming home to the same loving woman every night is more appealing to most men than costly serial dating.
#3. He’s not that into you.
Unless they have ulterior motives, men will usually break off romance maturely or via ghosting when they’re just not into you. Consistently trying to pressure him to commit to you will result in making you appear manipulative, needy, and insecure. Pushing a man to prove his love or obsessing over whether they even do love you is a negative red flag of worse behavior to come. Know your worth; any time negative thoughts creep into your mind about his feelings for you, remind yourself of three reasons why he would know that you’re a great catch.
#4. He has his own goals to achieve first.
Telling you he’s not ready to make a commitment isn’t necessarily a representation of a lack of feelings for you; perhaps he made goals he committed to and wants to achieve first.
#5. He’s scared of getting hurt.
Premature dedication can end in disaster when a couple rushes into moving in together or marriage before taking the time to get to know each other. His heart could be telling him to run away with you today, but his mind is putting the responsible brakes on to protect his heart, and yours, from unnecessary heartbreak.
#6. He’s using you.
Unfortunately, sometimes people do use others. Listen to your intuition, and your friends’ opinions; together, you’re a more powerful intelligence organization than the FBI.
